Slowing down for Lent

This past week has been very busy. Early in the week, my brother and I met with the attorney to figure out what we need to do for Mom’s estate. Then there were several doctor’s appointments. We had the usual taking of girls back and forth to school. Plus we managed to fit in some homeschooling. Finally, we had Bea’s memorial services on Friday and Saturday.

Today has also been a run around day. We were out of milk, that is almost unheard of here are this house. I try not to do a lot of shopping on Sundays as I feel this should be a day of rest for everyone. However, since we were out of milk and Mandy and I had have had much mom and daughter time, I snagged her after Mass and we went out to lunch and the needed shopping.

We had lunch, ran to Walmart and then headed over to Wegman’s to pick up the milk. While we were trying to figure out something for dinner; we ran into Mandy’s IB coordinator from high school. We all had a great chat. Plus she even gave us a great, quick recipe for dinner using porch chops. We are trying it out tonight.

With Lent starting on Wednesday, so I am hoping to take the time and slow down and refocus. I plan on going to Eucharistic Adoration tomorrow and “chill with Jesus” for an hour or so and ask Him what he wants me, personally, to accomplish this Lent. One thing I plan on doing is deactivating my Facebook account. So if you would like to stay in touch, please let me know or follow this blog.

Overall the family needs to talk and make decisions. We have several opportunities open to us which we are exploring. We had originally planned to sell the house as quickly as possible and leave Maryland. Richard and I are now thinking it may not be a good idea. We want to talk to the older children and get their opinions too.

I hope you are having a peaceful and enjoyable day!

Pax Christi!
A married woman must often leave God at the altar in order to find Him in her housework
~~St. Francis of Rome

Another loss

As I wrote last week, Richard’s mother, Bea was losing her fight with breast cancer. We received the call Sunday morning, January 27, she had passed away. Losing two mothers within a month is such a hard thing to imagine for any family, let alone to be actually living it. I grieve for my mom and mother-in-law, Richard grieves for his mom and his mother-in-law, and our children grieve for the loss of their two grandmothers. Such sorrow in such a short time.

All the children are acting out; Richard and I are snippy with each other and the children. Neither of us have the energy and the children just want to play video games and forget about the daily chores which need to be done to keep the house safe and presentable.

All I can say is grief and grieving stink! I know everyone goes through it and deals with grief differently. I know the stages. I know it takes time. It is so hard when you have to keep together for the children, and still let them know what they are feeling is perfectly normal.

Having nine children going through the grieving process at one time makes life interesting. The three littlest ones don’t really understand what is going on, they just know everyone else is sad and are trying to be very good and cheer people up. The 13 year olds are all over the place: one is cranky and crabby, one is irritable with EVERYTHING setting off a reaction, and the third just wants to read or play games all day. The 14 year old goes back and forth between wanting to help and wanting to be left totally alone. The older two have just started the new semester so they are digging into their studies and it is hard to get a read on what they are going through.

Part of the grieving process for me personally is the funeral or memorial service.  It was decided there will be two services for Bea. One on Friday at the retirement home where she had lived for the past few years and the second service will be on Saturday at the church were she and the entire family were active for many years.  I am praying once these services are over we can begin to establish our new normal.

Eternal rest, grant unto them O Lord
and let perpetual light shine upon them.
May they rest in peace. Amen.

May their souls and the souls of all the faithful departed,
through the mercy of God, rest in peace.

Pax Christi!


A married woman must often leave God at the altar in order to find Him in her housework
~~St. Francis of Rome